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The Influence of a Father

As a family, we just finished reading the first book of Nephi in the Book of Mormon. The more if reflect back it is a powerful narrative of a family struggling to keep peace and spiritual harmony during a time of great change and hardship. What are some of the events that happen?

  • The father, Lehi, receives a spiritual calling to preach repentance and foretell the destruction of Jerusalem–a very unpopular position that puts his life in peril.
  • The family leaves all of their possessions behind and travels about two hundred miles south (so estimate scholars).
  • Everyone in the family has to come to personal grips with the situation (Sariah, Nephi, Sam successfully do but, Laman and Lemuel never fully do causing a rift in the family).
  • The brothers return in attempt to get sacred records. Their lives are threatened multiple times and they lose all their gold and silver in the process.
  • They make the trip again from their father’s camp back to Jerusalem and convince another family to travel with them.
  • An argument erupts on the way back and part of the family leaves one brother in the wilderness tied up to die.
  • They travel through pretty harsh desert region, without the aid or warmth of fire, nor are they permitted to cook their meat
  • The women bear children in these extreme circumstances
  • Father-in-law dies, causing further strife, requiring divine intervention to settle
  • Nephi breaks his bow, it becomes very difficult to find food for a period of time
  • After years of travel, they arrive in coastal oasis with milk and honey but they’re not staying: as Nephi builds a boat an intense conflict arises in which the older brothers seek Nephi’s life.
  • On the boat, as the older siblings start to get boisterous and irreverent, another fight breaks out, resulting in Nephi being tied up to the mast for many days. A storm arises and threatens the safety of all on board until Nephi is finally released.

Whew! That is a lot of stress and conflict for one family to cope with. And unfortunately its not over as shortly after Lehi’s death, Nephi and his side of the family will need to flee in the night from their brethren because their hate metastasized into an intent to kill. It will be hundreds of years before any semblance of peace between the two groups is reached.

Given all that Laman and Lemuel did in stirring up strife, threatening the lives of their family members and probably otherwise making life difficult for the rest of the family, it is all the more remarkable to me that the Lord fully intended to save and preserve their descendants. Not only that, but in the end bless them with all blessings of the Gospel.

It is very striking: Nephi, the righteous one, saw the destruction of his people because they would go on to reject the greater light, while he saw the descendants of his wicked brothers, who were kept from the full truth because of the misdeeds of their parents would take active part in being restored to full glory as members of the House of Israel in the last days.

So taking a step back, I’m led to ask what makes this all possible? How can this family make it thousands of miles under significant stress and hardship to the promised land still as a family unit? And even after that family unit dissolves, what made it possible for Laman and Lemuel’s descendants to eventually receive the fullness of the gospel?

As I pondered this question as we read, a thought entered my mind: The descendants of Laman and Lemuel are also the descendants of Lehi.

What tribute or honor could properly describe the righteous influence of a father like Lehi other than patriarch? This man, though relatively simple means, would not only provide for the temporal salvation of his family by following the Lord’s commandments, but provided the spiritual foundation for powerful civilizations on the American continent. The record thereof would then in turn bless millions of additional lives in the form of a divine witness and fruit by which men can recognize the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.

And yet, when you read the account, what did Lehi do?

  • He prayed for inspiration and did his best to follow it
  • He bore testimony of the Savior to the people and more importantly to his family
  • He shared his spiritual experiences with his family
  • He valued the scriptures and encouraged his children to do the same
  • He never appears to command or coerce his family, but speaks with deep love and persuasion, with ‘all the feeling of a tender parent’
  • He repented when he needed to
  • He left each member of his family a blessing

And with that he was able to successfully get his family to the promised land and secure for them amazing blessings, not the least of which is a personal visit from the Savior after his resurrection. Today, Lehi’s legacy is still felt as the record of his family helps us prepare for the second coming of the Savior. How great is the influence of a father!

 

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Art by Chris White

 

 

 

 

Duty of Parents

President Joseph Fielding Smith taught:

“It is the duty of parents to teach their children these saving principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ, so that they will know why they are to be baptized and that they may be impressed in their hearts with a desire to continue to keep the commandments of God after they are baptized, that they may come back into his presence. Do you, my good brethren and sisters, want your families, your children; do you want to be sealed to your fathers and your mothers before you … ? If so, then you must begin by teaching at the cradle-side. You are to teach by example as well as precept.”

(2012 October General Conference, Becoming Goodly Parents, Sat. Afternoon Session – By L. Tom Perry)

Worthy Fathers, Worthy Sons

Ezra Taft Benson taught,

“Why did righteous fathers in the Book of Mormon go to so much trouble to teach their sons the word of God? King Benjamin said it was to fulfill the commandments of God. (See Mosiah 1:4.) He further stated that were it not for their having the brass plates which contained the commandments, they would have “suffered in ignorance.” ( Mosiah 1:3.) Could the lack of teaching the scriptures in our homes be a source of our suffering in ignorance today?”

“Worthy Fathers, Worthy Sons”
October 1985 General Conference

Great Men Come From Great Mothers

George Q. Cannon said,

If you read of the great men of antiquity, or of modern times, you will find that in almost every instance they have had great mothers, who have moulded and fashioned the plastic minds of their sons according to their own notions of greatness, and sent them forth to battle with the circumstances of life, like gods almost. Great interests are in the hands of mothers. God has reposed in them great power; if they wield that power of good it will be productive of peace and happiness and exaltation to them. They will be blessed in seeing the greatness of their posterity. Their hearts will be gratified in having a posterity who will rise up and called them blessed.

(George Q. Cannon, Journal of Discourses 11:338-339)

The Influence of a Mother

Brigham Young taught,

It is the mother’s influence that is most effective in molding the mind of the child for good or for evil. If she treat lightly the things of God, it is more than likely her children will be inclined to do the same, and the Lord will not hold her guiltless when He comes to make up His jewels; He will disown all such when He comes to claim His own, and will say, Go hence, I never knew you.

(Brigham Young, JD 18:263)